Below are some of the most asked questions as compiled by the Miscarriage Association. The association is a registered national charity, which provides support and information to anyone affected by miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy or molar pregnancy . The contact details are given at the end of this section.
I miscarried at ten weeks but nobody seems able to tell me why it happened. Saying it is "just one of those things" doesn't help. I desperately need some answers but feel no one is bothering to find out what caused it.
The loss of your baby will never feel like "just one of those things". Sadly, despite the fact that around one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage, there is still much that we don't know about why miscarriages happen. Most women who miscarry go on to have a healthy pregnancy, so single miscarriages are rarely investigated. Investigations are usually carried out only on women (and their partners)who have had three or more consecutive miscarriages and even then, a clear cause is found in only about half of them..
Probably half of all early miscarriages - those in the first 12 weeks - are caused by a chromosome abnormality. This is usually a random event and is unlikely to happen again. Other possible causes are hormone problems, , problems in the immune system, some specific infections and, less commonly, uterine abnormalities or weakness of the cervix. Diet, smoking, alcohol and other environmental factors are also thought to have a part to play.
After trying for a baby for the last year, my pregnancy ended at just eight weeks in a miscarriage. It is now three months on and I still feel such a tremendous sense of loss. I know my partner feels I should be putting it behind me but I feel overwhelmed by the sadness of it all and unable to move on.
The sadness of miscarriage can be overwhelming, and especially so when it has been difficult to conceive and when the joy turns so quickly into sorrow. Many women find that they cope well in the first days or weeks, but seem to grieve more as time goes on and others, including partners, may find it hard to understand.
Some women are particularly upset when they get their first period - a sharp reminder both of no longer being pregnant and of the miscarriage itself. Sometimes it is simply the approach of certain dates, such as the baby's due date or an event you might have anticipated attending in maternity clothes. The progress of a friend's or relative's pregnancy can also be hard to cope with.
It may help if you can express your sadness openly, either to someone who understands, or in a poem or letter. Tangible memories can also help, perhaps planting a tree or a flowering plant at home or in a garden of remembrance. Your sorrow will lessen as time goes on, even though you may always miss your baby.
How long after a miscarriage should you wait before trying for another baby? Everyone tells me something different.
Many doctors suggest waiting until you have had one period - usually four to six weeks after a miscarriage - before trying again. This makes it easier to calculate the number of weeks the pregnancy may be. However, if you do become pregnant before this, there is no evidence that you are more likely to miscarry. The best time to try again is when you and your partner feel ready, physically and emotionally.